Quietness

So recently, someone said to me that "I had no personality." Ok, maybe it wasn't that recently but it's a "criticism" that made me step out of my usual frame of mind for a second and reflect and re-evaluate myself as a person. At first, admittedly, I was slightly shocked and upset at the remark, which, as it quite often does, led to self pity. I understood why they had made this remark, it's because, in their presence, I was quite, slightly bashful and just, over all, a little bit shy. Obviously, this is a trait I can't exactly control and I didn't choose to be this way but I am so what can I do? For a moment, I wanted to be able to change myself and "have a personality" but then I realized, it's not exactly that I don't have a personality, it's that they never bothered to get to know me. If you know me, you'll know that at first, sure, I'm quiet but once you really get to know me, I do laugh loudly, I do talk, I make jokes. I am a real person. I thought that I should probably try to be more outspoken and I tried it, it just wasn't how I was, it made me feel uncomfortable and just not myself. I tried to change to fit in with what other people expected of me when really I shouldn't because if we look at the qualities a Muslim woman should possess, one of those is her shyness- her haya. Shyness, nowadays is considered a "social phobia" by the Royal College of Psychiatrists but in Islam it is so important for both men and women. Along with having "haya" a Muslim should be honest, they should love endlessly, forgive endlessly and trust in God endlessly. The only reason I should try and change is so that I can fit more of the Islamic morals and values inside of my heart, not because someone doesn't like me or doesn't think I am  good enough to fit into society. Muslims will always be outcasts of this modern society and every society, our Prophet was as well, so it's nothing to be ashamed of. We will stand for what we believe and we will not change for anyone except Him.
So the point to that was, society and people will try to make you conform to their standards, their values and what they think is correct, what I'm trying to say to you is don't. Don't conform. Don't feel the pressure to conform. You are what you are for a reason. Be proud of what you believe in and be proud of what you have but this, however gives you no right to be disrespectful towards others who are doing the same thing as you. Being themselves. Just because they don't agree with you or they don't match with your values and morals, does not give you the right to think you are above them.
Rant over.